Friday, April 24, 2015 18:13

Fairytale News | Feedback and co-blogging.



I talked about originality a while back; how hard it is to come up with refreshing content and how I was worried people might get bored by my content. I also asked you how you come up with new ideas or how you write your discussion posts. Your feedback was very helpful and someone said it might be a good idea to respond to everything you said with a new blog post. Here it is!

I think you all agreed on one thing: originality is hard and almost impossible. Sure, sometimes you come across something that hasn’t been used that often, but something entirely new is hard to come by. You also thought it’s fine to take a popular topic as long as you stay close to yourself and your own voice. Your opinion will always be different from someone else since you are an unique person. You always add something to the topic. It’s strange how I always tell other people this, but when it comes to myself I had to hear it from someone else too.

That being said, I think it’s time for me to let go of being worried about my content. Some of you said that, as long as you are proud of what you post, it doesn’t really matter what other people think. There has never been a moment where I didn’t feel confident about my posts. I’m happy with my own content, but at the same time I also want to make sure my followers like it. Your feedback and the compliments definitely worked, thanks for all the positivity! I sometimes see bloggers with surveys and since that’s not something I want to do, it was great to get some feedback this way. Have you ever made a feedback survey and how helpful was it for you?

I also saw a couple of people mention they were thinking about finding a co-blogger. I think that’s a great idea for some. I follow a couple of blogs with co-bloggers and they sound like the best teams ever, but for now it’s not something I aspire. I think two (or more) people can come up with great ideas together, but to be honest, this blog is mine. It represents everything I am and I don’t think I could share this place with someone else. I’m also a bit of a control freak, so it would be too hard to let go of certain things. How do you feel about co-blogging, would it be something for you?

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Mel@thedailyprophecy

Mel is a microbiology technician who is obsessed with Disney, fairytale retellings and fantasy. If she's not reading or blogging, she's either busy with gaming, hanging out with family or watching a TV show. She loves summer and bright nail polish. One of her dreams is to travel the world. She has found her Prince Charming and they are together for 7+ years.

34 comments:

  1. I'm the same way, despite how busy I get sometimes, I don't think I could ever have a co-blogger. Like you said: my blog is MINE and I don't know how I'd feel about someone else to share a space with. I'm a control freak too though so letting go a certain things would be tough! I do respect that it works for some people though and there are some excellent teams out there.

    I'm glad you've decided to let go of being worried about your content because I feel like your content is always excellent! I know we all second guess ourselves at one point or another but you're a wonderful blogger and whatever you do always works great :) The proof? You have another seriously cool discussion post, right here^^ xxxx

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    1. Thank you! I think we all sometimes hit a certain stage where we feel insecure about our blog, but I'm starting to regain energy again to write new posts. Haha, I think the control freak in me wouldn't like to let go either!

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  2. I love all of your content Mel, and I've noticed you're always SO supportive of everyone else's content in the community which I think is just as important :) I like doing features with other bloggers, but I don't think I could ever co-blog, I like owning my own blog!

    -Cristina @ Girl in the Pages

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    1. Awh, thanks for letting me know! I try really hard to spread positive vibes into the community, so it's great when people notice that :)

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  3. It seems to me these days that blog readership is down, making the number of readers less an incentive to keep going! So I figure that as long as I'm enjoying writing my posts, that's the important thing to focus on...

    And I could never have a co-blogger either. It would mean Planning and Scheduling and Organization!

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  4. Great post Mel, it is your own blog and something that expresses your individuality. I tried the co-blogger thing and while some blogs I follow have great, enviable teams, it wasn't quite for me as well to relinquesh that control. I love your blog and your content, your honest discussions and your great fairy tale themes :) Keep up the good work!

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  5. Good post. I totally see what you mean. It is hard to come up with something that's totally new! But I think that's the same with everything these days. But I agree, it's all good as long as you give it your own spin and stay true to you! As for co-blogging, I'm not sure. I don't think I could 100% share my blog with someone else. I think I would be cool with it if they knew I was the boss :P

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  6. Every now and then I wonder about the plus sides of having/being a co-blogger. There'd be two of us to share the work, could post (at least) twice as many reviews, etc. But I'm kind of with you --- my blog is my chance to just be myself --- I don't think I'm in a space right now where co-blogging would meet my needs.

    As far as originality goes, I find that I don't worry about it too much. I try not to pick too many topics that are "bandwagon" topics, but otherwise I just write about whatever I feel like writing about at the time. It's worked for me so far! ;)

    ~ Liza @ Classy Cat Books

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  7. I totally know what you mean about co-blogging. x) I USED to co-blog but then it was with my sister, and I feel like it's always different dynamics with sisters? If we aren't happy with each other, gosh, we let it out. xD lol Soooo, when she couldn't blog anymore (too busy being fabulous elsewhere) I considered finding a new co-blogger, buuuut. Yeah. I feel like my blog is a piece of me and I like to be the sole person in charge. Control freak? Eh. Me too.

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  8. Ashley from Nosegraze posted about something similar not too long ago - that as long as you are putting out the kinds of posts that you want to read, other people will love reading them too. And I totally think that's true. I'm at a place where I am loving everything I'm posting and I'm happy to see you're feeling the same way. I might not comment a lot but I do love your posts!

    Co-blogging was great for a while. I started solo, moved to a group blog for a little over a year, and now I'm solo again. They both have their advantages and disadvantages, just like all things. But like you said about your blog being a representation of you, I too want my blog to say what I want it to say. I like being able to stretch and do anything I want to do.

    I've never done a survey before, and to be honest, I never fill them out when I see them either. I'm not really sure why. I do always read the posts with the responses though, so I'm not sure what that says about me!

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  9. I feel the same way about co-blogging as you, Mel. Some blogs are wonderful especially because two or three bloggers came together. Yet no matter how sporadic my posts are sometimes, I see my blog as my space to express myself. Right now, I would feel cluttered out blogging with someone else. And if I did somehow end up in a co-blogging venture, it would have to be a new blog while I still maintain my own. That way I would have reservations about things not always going my way. Heh.

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  10. I used to do co-blogging but then my co-blogger got too busy and decided to quit blogging! Which was fine, because that's completely understandable and I knew her in real life anyway. I don't really know which I prefer- I've always really treated my blogging as a hobby and don't feel the need to fill up the week with posts or anything, and I'm pretty happy with my readership so it's not like I feel the need to get a co-blogger to freshen things up, or to post consistently and things. Eh, I guess I'm fine with both.

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  11. I share your same worries about original content. And now, like you, I'm trying to just not let that worry me too much--and just write about what I want to write. And if other people don't want to read it, then that's fine. You know I've never really considered co-blogging. Haha, not sure I'd really be good at it!

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  12. I agree 100% that my blog is mine. There's only one person I would ever consider co-blogging with and she's someone I've been friends with for over a decade. It we ever did decide to start a blog together it wouldn't be strictly focused on books, which would be completely okay with me.

    I'm in awe of the blogs who are co-run by multiple people and how well everyone works together. I'm sure there are exceptions, but I think the co-bloggers who work best are the pairs who already knew each other before blogging. They were already friends for years. The blogs who seek co-bloggers through applications always feel a little iffy to me. What if you don't mesh well together?

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  13. It's fun to see the feedbakc you got on your post about originality and I think that pretty much susm up my stance on this topic as well, you cna't be 100% original, but as long as you are happy with your content it's good. I never made a feedback survey, although sometimes I ask questions to my followers in my sudnay post for example.

    I started out as a co-blogger on another blog and we ran into exactly that problem, that was her blog and it never felt like it was mine. Then an author adressed an e-mail to her with my name and we decided it was best if I started my own blog. Then I stared Lola's Reviews and I don't think I ever could take a co-blogger. I am a control freak and I don't think I could share my blog with anyone. Although I follow some blogs that thave co-bloggers who have great blogs. I think it's important to start a new blog when you start co-blogging so it feels like it's both of your blog.

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  14. I don’t think I’m comfortable of having co-blogger. My blog is too personal to me and I don’t think I’ll jive well with another person in my blog. Maybe it works for other but for someone like me who always prefer to work alone; co-blogging is something I never see myself into. :D

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  15. I like that you're feeling confident and proud about your posts - you definitely should! I love reading your posts, the discussions especially.
    As to co-blogging, my thoughts are pretty similar to yours. My blog only turns 1 in two weeks and I've been trying to find my own voice so I don't think I could share my space with anyone at this moment. Maybe in a couple of years? :)

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  16. I have to admit, although I did go from blogging solo to co-blogging, some blogs and some bloggers just need to be alone you know? I couldn't imagine being a full-timer anymore, there's just others I want and I'm constantly thinking about content for the next few days, but I do think that this blog works as just yours, I think of it as Mel's blog, and that works! Don't worry about your contents originality, everythings original to you if you haven't done it. Share your thoughts, do what you love and post when you want, that's the best part!<3

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    1. I think it would be weird to share this place with someone else, because yes, it does feel like such a 'Mel' blog. Thanks <3

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  17. I work with a co-blogger. I think that I lucked out on a great partner because we have naturally fallen into our roles, but we are very like minded. We are a review blog but we are reviewers that are critiquing our fellow contemporaries. I understand wanting individuality and things like that but I feel like I cover a lot more ground with my partner and it works for us. Like I said I'm pretty sure I won the co-blogger lottery!

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  18. Gorgeous post Mel. <3 I think you are AWESOME at finding new blog content to post :) I love reading your thoughts so much. I am not a creative person, lol :p but maybe one day. <3 And ack. Co-bloggers. I could never. Not ever. Like you say, my blog is MINE. <3 I do not share, lol. Though I do know a lot of awesome people who co-blog :) Though I do not understand how they deal with it, lol. Thank you for sharing sweetie. <3

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    1. I couldn't imagine someone else on your blog! It's so YOU!

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  19. Well I've flirted with the idea of finding a co blogger to my blog a couple of times,but I don't think I can ever do it.I am really possessive of my blog and I don't think I'll be able to share my corner of the internet with someone else:)
    And I love this post Mel!I firmly believe that a blogger is free to talk about anything in their blog,but at the same time,I can't help but feel a bit nervous and insecure as soon as I publish a post,because my readers' opinion matter quite a lot to me.

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  20. I am SO with you about co-blogging. I would love to reduce some of the pressure to post more often by having a co-blogger, but I am a complete control freak. I would need their posts to be perfectly crafted and match mine exactly in order to be happy. I NEED things to be cohesive and standardized, and I feel like my standards are too high lol.

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  21. Sometimes I want to get a co-blogger, so I have someone to keep my going in those reading slumps. But I can totally see where you're coming from and if I did have a coblogger, I would probably be a control freak and terrible co-blogger in general.

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  22. Great post. I agree about a co-blogger. I really wouldn't be able to do it. I really do not work well with others. Haha

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  23. I totally agree - YOU DO YOU. I looove co-blogging with Gaby, but it's something that just felt right at the time, not something I was even remotely unsure about or second guessed a little bit.

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  24. So with you. Originality is super hard to achieve in this day and age, esp with the internet, now that we realise how many likeminded people there are out there. Like you, I love reading blogs with co bloggers. Everyone just works so well as a team and there's this fantastic harmony and mood and urgh I love it. But for me, I'm a solo gal. No co blogging for me, no matter how overwhelmed I am. I just feel like it's my space, my thoughts kinda thing, you know?

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  25. In some ways I can understand what you mean about adding another voice into your blog that has been your space. Nicole and I started out together on day one. So our coblogging journey is slightly different, we never had our own spaces so that being said I would never want to do this without her. In some ways I feel like our blog is our space, so at least at this point I cannot imagine adding another voice to our blog. If that all makes any sense at all haha.

    Ashley @ The Quiet Concert

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    1. You and Nicole are an example of two great bloggers together! :)

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  26. I love that I am following up Ashley's comment and I completely agree with her. I wouldn't worry about your content or originality - your personality shines through your blog all the time and in my opinion, it's as much about the blogger as it is the blog. I think all of your posts are great and it's obvious this community wouldn't be the same without you <3

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  27. Hahahhaha I agree with everyone! Well with the survey! I also don't think I could co-blog UNLESS it was with someone I've known from the blogosphere or in real life :)

    Keep publishing awesome content!

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  28. I would love to get a co-blogger but it would have to be someone that I know IRL or personally! It's nice to have that sort of dynamic, too!

    I think it doesn't matter if you have the same post as others because let's face it, most topics have been done before. I think it's just being original with that topic, a new voice, or a new style.

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