Thursday, December 11, 2014 09:16

Fairytale News | How blogging changed my life.



Book blogging has been a big part of my life for the past 2.5 years and it has effected and changed me in positive ways. Today I want to share you how blogging changed my life.

The first thing that would never have happened without my blog is the start of my book club. Once every month I meet up with Debby, Daisy and Daph. We’ve been doing this for a year now and I’m so happy with them in my life. I now have real life people I can fangirl/rant with! This showed me that I AM capable of meeting new people without making an embarrassment out of myself. I don’t think I would have been brave enough a few years ago, but blogging has pushed me to do new things. It has made me step out of my comfort zone. I also made other blogging friends and I never imagined that I would feel so connected with people all over the world. It’s a wonderful feeling. And to come back on my confession about my fear of Twitter, I feel I’m getting better at it. I keep challenging myself with things I’m scared of and it feels good.


I’m also better with rejections now. The first time writing a publisher for a review request was scary and it was hard to be rejected. 'Why is my blog not good enough?' It made me insecure, but now I continue and I can shake it off easily. It shows me that it’s not terrifying to approach other people; you just have to do it and it taught me more about networking. Plus, authors are only human and they are lovely to talk to.

Blogging allowed me to explore reading in another way. I now know what is important for me and what I dislike in books. I'm more critical and now I can see books through the eyes of someone else and that's sometimes helpful when you're not sure how you feel about a story. I feel more confident about giving my opinions about books. I can finally point out all the things I like and dislike instead of saying ‘I just love it!’ It’s easier to write down my thoughts and feelings, even if they are negative.

I’ve learned to let go of the idea I have to give everything a chance. Like I told in my DNF post, I used to finish every book, but with blogging I realize I don’t have the time for it. I’m also better at picking books. Before my blogging life I used to go to the store and I would buy whatever caught my eyes. Now, with Goodreads and all my blogging friends, I’m more aware of books. I know what will be published, I know what is currently a hype and I base the books I buy on reasons; and this prevents me (most of the times) from buying books I end up disliking. This made me broaden my horizons even more and I discovered new favorites books I might have ignored before.

I’ve also fallen in love with stats. I always liked making lists, but together with Goodreads and Excel I can keep up with everything. Books I want to buy, series I need to finish, details about all the books I’ve finished that year etc. The things you can add are endless. Based on these stats I can see I read more than ever. Challenges, read-a-thons; blogging makes me read more books and it even helps me to achieve one of my dream goals: 150 books in a year.

My English has improved and I learn new things every day. I loved English the moment they started to teach it to me and I was always pretty good at it, but my vocabulary has grown and writing in English is much easier now. It can be difficult at times (like I said in this post, I’m afraid to make mistakes and it’s scary to realize people might judge you for it), but I’m proud that I can speak at least 2 languages. I even started my own Youtube channel and while I'm still uncomfortable in front of the camera, I can see my progress and that's fun.

Now tell me, how did blogging change you?
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Mel@thedailyprophecy

Mel is a microbiology technician who is obsessed with Disney, fairytale retellings and fantasy. If she's not reading or blogging, she's either busy with gaming, hanging out with family or watching a TV show. She loves summer and bright nail polish. One of her dreams is to travel the world. She has found her Prince Charming and they are together for 7+ years.

53 comments:

  1. Aww, this is such a lovely post, Mel! I'm so glad blogging has helped you in so many aspects of your life and well done for becoming more confident! Blogging has also changed me. It's made me more confident to voice my opinion about books I've read, I've made so many bookish friends through it so I don't feel like I have no one to talk to about books I've read anymore, I've gotten to talk to my favourite authors - which is a dream come true - and I've discovered so many fantastic books through it! The book blogosphere is truly amazing! <3

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    1. Isn't it great how we all made new friends we can talk with - and they are spread all over the world :D

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  2. Wow, this list is full of positives and that is really fantastic to hear that overall, you've grown in confidence in both sharing your opinion and doing things outside of your comfort zone! It sounds like blogging has really helped you grow Melanie. Great post!

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  3. It is great to read what blogging can do for a person. I feel the same way, and I can really relate to some of the things you pointed out in this post. It's great and fun to realize that the effort you put into your blog results in something good. Lovely post Mel!

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    1. Definitely, it shows that blogging is more than just.. blogging.

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  4. I'm so peed because I had a big long comment and then my computer just POOF, dead, so I lost it. But I do want to say that this was a lovely post and I think I feel the same, it does change you as a person a lot.

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  5. Blogging has changed my life a lot like it has yours. Before I blogged, I didn't read much else than contemporary and if I did, it was a light fairy book or witch tale. I also used to read books to the end, even if I wasn't enjoying it. Now? I just don't have time for that or the patience. I think it's also made me appreciate books and authors more. I feel like I know more about the behind the scenes side of things and how much work and effort goes into writing the books we love to read. Great post!

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    1. Definitely. I never knew that writing a book was THAT much work.

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  6. Lovely post, Mel. I'm glad blogging has had such a great impact on you, and I love your blog and creativity! Also, I think your English is fantastic, and am super envious you can speak two languages. One of my biggest regrets was not second majoring in German while I was in college. I took two years of it and wished I would have studied abroad and really learned it. Nice reflective post, and here's to more of your blogging!

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    1. Thanks Anne :)! And definitely, I'm not tired of blogging at all.

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  7. I think our blogs affected more ways than one. I too have changed the same way as you did. But for me the best that has happened is, I am, little by little starting to have bit of faith in myself. I’m awkward, shy and even sometimes closed off but because of blogging I’m beginning to broaden my network bit by bit. I love how blogging changes us in many positive ways.

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  8. Awww this post warmed my heart Mel ♥ Coming from a fellow socially awkward book-lover, reading as you shared your thoughts on your fear of twitter and all that stuff really helped me too! And of course, since English is my second language, I can totally relate to blogging helping me out with my English that way too. Blogging has really changed me too, back when I was only on Goodreads, I was much less critical and used to like most of what I read. Blogging taught me to notice certain issues that bug me now and helped me vocalize it all. I'm still working on the Twitter thing though, I have a few people I'm a bit more comfortable with but I get antsy jumping into conversations or commenting sometimes...

    I absolutely LOVED reading how blogging changed you ^^ wonderful post! xx

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    1. Thanks Micheline! I'm always happy my posts can help other people and the feedback is always amazing <3

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  9. Blogging has changed my life so much as well. First and foremost, it's brought me so much closer to people who are likeminded, from all over the world. Something that I really appreciate. Honestly, of all my closest friends, I'm the only one that reads. And it's hard to keep a conversation with them about my hobby. And it was always something that I kept more to myself. But through blogging I've been able to meet so many other people who love the same genre are me, and who have encouraged me to open up what genres that I take in (I used to keep within fantasy, historical fiction and paranormal). It's also helped my communication vastly. I love that I find it so easy to draft emails, to write professionally now. It no longer fazes me. And it's also taught me discipline (although now's not the best time to say that considering I'm swamped with work.) But truly, blogging has taught me how to prioritise, how to keep on track and how to think in advance. It's been a glorious experience. Thank you so much for sharing how blogging has affected your life. It's beautiful that blogging has led you to stepping out of your comfort zone! <3

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    1. I have the same thing with my friends. I can't talk about books with them, because I know they aren't that interested in it. It's so much fun to meet people who love books like I do :D

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  10. Interesting post. Ho, and I'm also sure you can of meet new people without making an embarrassment out of yourself.

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  11. Aw, I love this post Mel. <3 You are amazing. And I agree with so much of this too. Blogging has changed my life too. <3 for the better. I just love it so much. And I adore your blog, and I love having gotten to meet you :) Thank you for sharing sweetie. <3

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  12. This is why I love blogging + bloggers + authors <3 We learn so much from one another. I am happy to say my English improved, too! Writing book reviews has definitely helped me tackle my essays. I am also not afraid of rejecting requests too. When I first started blogging, I was really bad at saying no because I didn't want anyone's feelings to get hurt, but I learned that it's better to say no than to say yes and not have time to read the book.

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  13. This is a great post Mel! I'm glad that blogging has given you a lot more confidence, I agree I used to be such a mouse before, especially commenting on blogs and when tweeting (I used to over-analyse it a lot), but now I just tweet away, not caring! I wish I knew other bloggers who shared similar interests who lived near me, it sounds pretty neat, being able to meet them for book club.

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    1. Oh yes, I use to look at Tweets a long time before sending them - and a lot of time I deleted them again. Now I don't care and tweet away too :D

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  14. Aww...this is such a fabulous post Mel! :D Book blogging definitely has such an impact in our lives, and it's hard to imagine what it would be like without it. It opens up so many doors and opportunities that we wouldn't have had otherwise, and allows us to meet new friends with the same passion as us. Thanks for sharing!

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  15. I must agree, Mel! I've been so much better with dealing with rejections ever since blogging and sending review requests. Because honestly, it's just life and rejections teach you how to be constantly improving. I think I'm better with networking as well--oh and writing more professional like emails. I used to change all the fonts sizes and colours when writing emails...thank god those days are over lel.

    Nice post, girly! <33

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    1. Haha, sounds like a very fashionable email :p

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  16. I love this post! Our two year anniversary is just a few weeks away and it amazes me how fast time went. But blogging just keeps getting better and better. I am learning every day - learning what the heck to do with social media and how to network, and growing more confident in my blog and my opinions. I have met some of the best people (although I wish everyone wasn't spread across the globe!) and can't imagine my life without this community! And book blogging has definitely exposed me to books I may never have discovered on my own, and new genres as well. I have definitely improved my reading selection and my library :)

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    1. We should all save up money to create our own country, so we can all live next to each other :D

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  17. What a great post. It's awesome that blogging has done so much for you personally. I always think that the best hobbies and the ones that make you a better person. Blogging has made me more organized for sure!

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    1. I agree! Benefiting from a hobby is a great thing.

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  18. Ahh the warm feels. I'm a big language person (I teach English) and I love to see that you're more confident in speaking and reading English. I think anyone who can read literature in a foreign language is a star (writing styles differ from culture to culture, and authors take such liberties).

    While I'm still bad at feeling like I have to read EVERYTHING (I'm not ready to admit that I DNF books), I have come to conclusion that I can review whatever I want to review! :)

    150 books in a year? Go you! I'm attempting to do 100 this year and I'm about 14 books behind. *gulps*

    Keep blogging Mel, I hope you're able to glow even more! <3

    Amber Elise @ Du Livre

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  19. I LOVE this post, Mel!! I agree with everything on your list- especially the realisation that it's okay to DNF a book. :D You are VERY organised! I'm nothing like that- I have a schedule and lists but I can not bring myself to look at spreadsheets... XD Maybe I'll take your example and try to be more organised. You're English is perfect, Mel! I never notice any mistakes with anything you write- you might as well be a native speaker! English is also my second language, but it's not really the same for me since I've lived in the UK for most of my life. I hope you had a great year of blogging! Rita xx

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    1. It sounds organized, but sometimes I can be quite chaotic too, haha.

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  20. Blogging changed me for the better, it's still pretty embarrassing to talk about it. My classmates tease me like "Wow, Chyna the blogger." or "Make way, it's the blogger." HAHAHA It's kinda funny. I'm actually the walking library to my classmates now hahaha

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  21. oh I love this list so so much. Blogging has changed me a lot too! I think it's made me a bigger reader....which is not a bad thing! But it's probably made me more of a competitive reader....although I'm most competitive with MYSELF. If I hit a crazy goal like a book a day for a month, I'm the one who wants to do better than that next month. hehe.
    Definitely yes to Goodreads! I used to have notebooks all over my room with book reviews, but now I have shiny organised wonderful Goodreads and my life is a million percent better.

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    1. I know that feeling, I like to challenge myself too all the time :D

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  22. You definitely have come so far because of blogging haven't you!? That is amazing and I think your English is excellent! I love blogging and yes err don't have enough time to not dnf, we just! I've felt so many of the same things. I wish I was as good at making lists as you are.

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    1. I never thought it would influence me so much!

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  23. Well said Mel. I'm glad that blogging has been such a great part in your life. Books are something that are very important to me. I have grown to love stats also.

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  24. Blogging has made me more open, too! My coblogger Inge is Dutch and lives in Belgium. We met through the blog and have become great friends since. Also, I now have other people all over the world which I call my friends. We skype regularly and obsess over books (well, mainly rant about them!)
    I also started DNF-ing more. Whereas before I would read every single book from start to finish, now, I am not afraid to contact the publisher and tell them, you know what, this book sucks in my eyes. I will not be reading it. If you want to, I can also not review it, (because really, I am still not comfortable reviewing books I didn't finish reading) but it is up to you.
    So, yes, I think blogging changed me, too. :)
    If you feel up to it, I have nominated you for the Sisterhood of the World Bloggers Award. You can check it out, or not. Inge forced me to do it, and Cait @ Paper Fury threw shoes at me so...

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  25. Aw, Mel. This is such a cute and positive post. I'm so happy that you've grown so much, although I've only known you for a little while - gives me hope that in my 5 months of blogging, I still have so much more to achieve and I can do it with people like you around for support. I totally understand the whole "being more aware of books" because that's exactly what's happening to me right now. :) THanks for sharing; lovely post.

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  26. Great post Mel! I usually don't realize how much blogging changes who we are, so it was fun to read a post about it. Just like you I got better at DNF'ing books and blogging helped me connect more with people who love to read as well. I also met some wonderfull people to blogging who inspire me to keep doing my best with my blog. Writing reviews made me realize what I love in books an what doesn't work for me and picking books I probably like is easier, although I still have a 2 star book or DNF now and then.

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  27. I can definitely relate with you! Even though I don't get to meet any bloggers in real life, it's still been amazing getting to know them online. I mean, I don't know anyone who loved YA books as much as I do in real life, so I'm just grateful for the awesome people I've met through the blogosphere. Getting to chat with people with similar interests is one of the best things in the world. <3

    And I think that I've become "braver," too, in a sense! I was like you -- really shy to share opinions or to even tweet stuff on Twitter, but now I'm basically word-vomiting everywhere I can: in comments, in tweets, in emails, in chats. Not sure how much it's appreciated, though. I've also realized that I've become a little bit more sociable among my group of real-life friends. Progress!

    I think another way blogging long-term has changed me is that I no longer care so much about ARCs. When I first started out, I was so crazy about them, and wanted to get my hands on as many I could find. I also remember thinking that stats were only important so that publishers would approve me for ARCs. I know, I was a total jerk back then. But right now, I couldn't care less about advance copies, lol. All I want right now is to just cut down on my tbr pile and be able to read the books I want, without a deadline. And of course, book blogging helped people introduce me to the wonderful world of anime and manga. They've taken up such a huge part of my time now. O_O

    So yup, I'm so glad that blogging has been so beneficial to you, Mel, and to so many of us! I'm really glad to have met all of you. Thanks for sharing!

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    1. Chatting with people who get you is the best thing there is <3 It's great that we are both getting out of our shell :D

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  28. I feel like blogging has changed my life a lot too, all for the better I hope! I love that you're trying YouTube, it's something I have been thinking about but am too nervous to do at the minute. Twitter doesn't scare me exactly, I'm just really rubbish at using it - I never know what I should post, or what I should be saying! And I'd never know from reading your posts that English is a second language for you. You should be proud of yourself, I struggle with one language!

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  29. Inspiring post, Mel! I love how you described all the improvements in your life that resulted from blogging. I'm a new blogger but I totally see so many good things about it. It has changed my life for the better. Like you, English is not my native language and though I've always been good at it, I find myself getting better with each post. :) - Joy @ The Bookshelf Intruder

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  30. Aww, this was such a beautiful post, Melanie! I can certainly see myself in the points you put here. Blogging has changed my life in many ways, too. It actually improved because of this. I was finally able to do something that I love regularly and constantly. Every time I post something on my blog, I feel accomplished, and that makes me more confident and positive. English isn't my native language either, and my need to not sound repetitive, my need to have a voice of my own that is clearly "Faye of The Social Potato" helped me construct sentences better. I've always had trouble expressing myself, but talking with you guys, talking about books, and talking to publishers and authors definitely eased those troubles away.

    It's amazing how blogging can dramatically change one's lifestyle and even outlook in life. I definitely don't have any regrets and I'm happy to see that it has the same effect on you. CHEERS!!

    Faye at The Social Potato

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    1. I never thought I would learn so much by something people often look upon as 'just blogging'. It's great to realize what a hobby can do for you :)

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  31. I love this post because I can relate to it endlessly. No book club or anything, but blogging has changed my life. I've grown a bit more confident, I have a new way of being passionate about books, and I've met so many people and learned so much and I've also experienced so much. It's crazy how blogging can also be part of the real, non-digital world. It's just . . . something, and I get so overwhelmed sometimes thinking about it.

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    1. I sometimes get overwhelmed by it too, especially if I have to explain it to someone.. I'm always afraid they don't get it.

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  32. I can relate to everything you've said in this post Mel.Being a blogger has influenced my life in many ways as well.I've learned a lot,made a lot of friends and changed my attitude.
    Most of all,it has given me self confidence and has helped me to battle my insecurities.Just thinking about the fact that people around the world are reading what I wrote boosts my ego than anything else.
    I have to admit that it's stressful at the same time.But at the end,the experience you get and the fun you have is worth all of that.
    I think it's all the more reason why I've come back to the blogging world even after quitting it a month ago.

    Thanks for sharing this beautiful post,Mel!

    Mishma @ Chasing Faerytales

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