Saturday, February 22, 2014 22:30

Fairytale News | Important things to remember.


'Mel on reading' is a little feature I created as part of my Fairytale news. It's my way to show my thoughts on topics that go from pet peeves in reading to my favorite things in books.

I think we've all seen these things before. People are being plagiarized, authors are behaving badly, nasty comments, I think there is quite a list with negative situations. The thing is, aren’t we supposed to be one big, happy family? We have one of the best thing in life in common: our love for the written word. Whether we are readers who appreciate books or authors who create these wonderful stories, we have the same passion.  Please, let us remember the important things!


1. There is no right or wrong way to blog. Don't ever let anyone make you feel like you should change your way of blogging. If you feel good with posting two times a month, keep it that way! It's your blog and you should do what makes you feel happy and proud.

2. This brings me to the fact that we should be kind to each other; we should respect each other and value different opinions. If someone doesn’t like a book you love, there are two things you could do: you could leave a normal comment or you could turn around and leave the review. It’s perfectly fine to share your thoughts and say that you loved it, but bashing and saying that the blogger is wrong is NOT okay. Don’t act like your opinion is right. Everyone reads a book in their own way and there will be thousands of people with other opinions.

3. This is the same with authors. If you like to read reviews, even the negative ones, and you can learn from it, great! You obviously see this as useful feedback and I admire that of you. If you can’t deal with it, there is only one thing for you to do: LEAVE. Don’t comment, don’t spread the word, just go away. I REPEAT, GO AWAY. It’s apparently very hard for most authors to understand that, once their book is out in the open, people are going to dislike it. We as readers have that right. No, we didn’t ‘read your book the wrong way’ or ‘are only trying to bully you’ It’s understandable that it hurts, but go sit in a corner alone and cry for a while. Rant to family and friends (NOT ONLINE) and deal with it. Nothing is more pathetic than acting like a child and it will earn you the title ‘bad-behaving-author.’

4. The last thing I want to tackle is plagiarism. If you steal someone’s work; if you intentionally use things that aren’t yours, you are horrible. Be ashamed of yourself! Bloggers put a lot of time and effort in their content (or other things they make for their blog). Copy pasting their work is one of the worst things you could possible do. Getting inspiration from someone is great, but link back and give credits! It’s not hard or time consuming and you show respect for the original idea.

So, I’m getting out of my preachy mood and I want to sprinkle some unicorns and rainbows. Let’s all just be glad that we share this special thing with each other. It makes me sad that there are people out there who are rotten and who spoil the beauty of the community. Let’s be kind to each other.

Bloggers who also tackle some problems:
Snuggly Oranges talk about stalker behaviour from authors on Twitter.
Gypsy Reviews has a reminder that you must blog the way you want.
And Effortlessly Reading has written a letter to people who plagiarize.
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Mel@thedailyprophecy

Mel is a microbiology technician who is obsessed with Disney, fairytale retellings and fantasy. If she's not reading or blogging, she's either busy with gaming, hanging out with family or watching a TV show. She loves summer and bright nail polish. One of her dreams is to travel the world. She has found her Prince Charming and they are together for 7+ years.

48 comments:

  1. Lovely, lovely post Mel. As much as I love the blogging community, sometimes drama comes with it in such an opinion based medium. If you don't want nasty opinions and things to happen - then don't say anything and cause a rife.

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    1. Thanks Jeann! Yes, it's inevitable, but sometimes it's perhaps a good thing to remember this :)

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  2. I am always shocked by the amount of drama in book blogging. Not everyone will agree with your opinions. That doesn't mean they are wrong! And I completely understand how crappy it would be as an author to see a scathing review of your book, but that's the risk you take when you publish a book. If you're not cool with that, then keep your story saved on your computer where no one can ever say a bad word about it. If I were an author, I would find all the 4 and 5 star reviews of my book and bookmark them so I could cheer myself up after a poor review!

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    1. I totally understand that reading negative reviews is hard, but if I were an author I would avoid them, because I know I'm sensitive for that. If you know that about yourself, it's wrong to look for them and to reply. You only make yourself look childish and unprofessional.

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  3. Awww Mel! -hugs- <3
    I agree with all the points! There is no "right" way to blog; blog the way that works for YOU. (As long as it isn't like 20 GIFs in a row or something because that freezes my computer. Just saying. ;P)
    And respect! Respect other's opinions, respect all the reviews (except for the ones that is REALLY bashing the author), and respect other's works.
    -grabs your unicorns and rainbows and hugs them-

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    1. Haha, yes, there are definitely some things I wouldn't recommend when you blog, but okay :p

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  4. This is a great post, Mel, very thoughtful. Something all bloggers should read and remember. Authors are the absolute worst stalkers on earth. Granted, I would probably want to read the people's response on my pride & joy as well, but there is a line that should not be crossed.

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    1. Exactly :)! Interaction with your fans is great, but there is a limit.

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  5. Ooh, yes! And a high-five to you! It makes me so sad that a community that unites because of their common love of books has so much drama. I mean, it's inevitable, but can't we all just get along? :) And yes yes yes to respect! Respect is kind of the key to all of this. If we (bloggers and authors) respect others' opinions, if we respect others' ideas, if we respect authors' works. If everyone respected everyone else, we'd have no problems. Maybe one day! :) Such a great post, Mel.

    Rachel @ Paper Cuts

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  6. It's a shame that so much drama happens in the book blogging community. We're allowed to have differing opinions and we just have to respect each other! Like you said, we're all just people with a love of books. :)

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  7. Very well said Mel!! :) I've been reading around the past few days about some author misbehaving, and it's absolutely horrible! I think authors should only read negative reviews and take it as constructive criticism because as bloggers we have the right to share our opinion and we have to be honest! Of course, it's easier said then done, but they should never take things online and slander the blogger who was just being honest. And yes, a great reminder for other bloggers that we shouldn't take from others as well >< Like Rachel, I agree that it's pretty sad that there's so much drama in our community sometimes! :( But I guess nothing can ever be perfect, yeah?
    A thoughtful and lovely post, Mel!! Thank you for this reminder!! :) <33

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    1. Honest, negative reviews are things you should accept too. They are still publicity!

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  8. Yes, THIS! I really enjoy the book blogging community, but I can definitely say that it can be (occasionally) drama-filled. I think the authors who personally attack reviewers are the worst. I mean, they pretty much ask that we review their books, and then when we do and they don't like our opinions, we become victims of bullying. In truth, it makes me afraid to publish a negative review. What if the author comes at me for disliking their book? But I also think, as a reader, I'm entitled to an opinion, and it might not be the same as everyone else's, and that's okay too.

    Respect. Respect is DEFINITELY key to blogging. Respect fellow bloggers, respect the authors, and authors -- respect us. This was an absolutely great discussion. :)

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    1. Publishing negative reviews is sometimes a scary business indeed! But I still think it's important to say your honest thoughts, otherwise there is no reason to review at all.

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  9. I agree with everything in this post, Mel! Especially the second one. Some people can't accept that people have their own opinions and have to really do everything to defend their own thoughts, not even bothering to think that other people don't want to fight and just want to share what THEY feel. And the third one... Some authors just can't accept that some people might not like their book, or that their book isn't for everyone. If they couldn't accept those, they shouldn't have even written a book and published it for the world to read.

    Great post, Melanie!

    Aimee @ Read by the Undead

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    1. Thanks! Respecting opinions is the most important thing.

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  10. I completely agree with everything you mentioned in this post! There's been so much drama going around in the blogosphere lately and it makes me sad to read about :( Plagiarism is such an awful thing and it's frustrating how some people don't realize how hurtful it is. Thanks for the great discussion, Mel!

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    1. I don't even get why some people bother. To get free ARC's? Because what is the fun in stealing work from other people?

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  11. YES. BRAVO. I hate it when people think that they're opinion only matters and when authors go commenting on their negative reviews, just UGH. Also, yeah, blogging has no right and wrong, that's the beauty of it.

    Lovely post! <33

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  12. Aw, yess. I love this post. And I agree with so much of it. You are awesome Mel. <3 Thank you so much for writing and sharing :D

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  13. Great post! Sounds like a lot of these things definitely apply to what has been going on in the blogosphere lately. I definitely think anyone who is stealing other people's work are doing something very shameful and they should feel very bad about what they're doing because they're hurting people and making them not want to blog any more.

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    1. Yes, it makes me so sad when bloggers lose their fun because of others :(

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  14. I love this post.

    1. I totally agree, and this is the first thing I tell anyone who is asking for advice, or who is wondering about whether or not to do something blog-related. Do what you want, as long as it's not hurting other people. Blog about what you want to, not what other people expect. And don't pressure yourself into posting frequently if you don't want to!

    2. *cries* YES. I love hearing about others' opinions, even if they don't fall in line with mine. It's what blogging is all about for me. Although I do like to discuss different opinions in the comments, because I think a polite discussion on things you agree and disagree with is fine. As long as you don't start getting all high and mighty like YOU ARE WRONG THIS BOOK WAS SHIT, I think it's all okay.

    4. People who plagiarise are the pits. Not only is it disgusting and upsetting, it's also disrespectful and just plain mean.

    I think everyone should just love each other and make rainbow cookies.

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    1. Rainbow cookies sprinkled with chocolate <3 Discussions about books is the best thing in the world, as long as you respect others and don't think your opinion is the right one.

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  15. YES to everything you've listed down! and thank you for including my post in <3

    I'm so tired of hearing about drama coming from authors, you would think after so much they would learn that you need to tread carefully when it comes to negative reviews.

    Sigh the plagiarism... It's really sad and upsetting that it's still going on. People need to stop. It really isn't that hard to come up with your original content.

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    1. You're welcome. I was inspired by you guys, so credits there ;)

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  16. There's so much drama in the book blogging community and here I am thinking I've left behind the drama from my previous blogging platform (Tumblr). But with a community this big drama is really inevitable. I've never had experience with bad-behaving authors though, thank goodness. And you are right that we, the readers, have the right to dislike a book and there's nothing the authors can do about that. We don't do it just to be mean, it's just the way we feel about the book.
    As for the plagiarism, that is so sad to hear that some people are copying AND claiming the content of other bloggers' blog. Do they have any idea how much time and effort goes into EVERY SINGLE BLOG POST? And then they'd just copy-paste our hard work? This makes me really upset.
    Okay I'm done ranting. C`mon Mel let's now spread some rainbows and unicorns.
    - Farzy @ Books Keep Me Sane

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    1. I think there is no way to avoid drama, but as long as we remember with most people what is important, things will be all right!

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  17. You hit some awesome points! I've had to deal with #3 unfortunately and I have to admit it kind of annoyed me. The author literally asked me why was being so mean to her and why would I say those things about her. Authors sometimes think when you don't like their book that you are bashing themselves. I gave a honest, not nasty or mean, opinion on the book. I definitely agree that we put a lot of time into blogging and it's can be hard work at times! Great post Mel!

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    1. Yes, being honest about a book doesn't mean you are personally attacking the author!

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  18. With the variety of people, I think it’s inevitable so sometimes our opinions clash. I think it depends on the person whether she/he makes the issue bigger than it is. I’m always a mere observant, I really don’t like the drama, it sucks the fun out of what I’m doing. I guess, we should all pull our adult pants and be mature on the issues. Respect begets respect. :)

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  19. What great points you made Mel! I agree with the rude comments even with authors. I had one experience with that and it was both annoying and crazy! But you learn from it and move on. I'm definitely saving this on my fav bookmarks :)

    Happy Reading!
    Patrick @ The Bookshelves

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  20. So incredibly well said Mel! I love this community and I am so happy to be a part of it but sometimes I am just baffled by the behavior I see. It makes me sad when I see people critique the way others blog, and even more sad when people critique others for their opinion on a book. We are all entitled to our own way of doing things, and our own opinions. And intentionally stealing someones work is not ok in any way. I wish we could all just get along hah.

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    1. Exactly! The community is great, but sometimes..

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  21. Well said Mel!! I know when I first started blogging on Radiant Shadows, I fell victim to posting the type of posts that encouraged bloggers to all blog a certain way (don't have messy sidebars, don't have music playing, don't do this, don't do that). And then I read a post by someone who did a lot of the things that I didn't personally like, and she put everything into perspective for me. My tastes will not be the same as every other person's out there, and our blogs are our spaces where we should be free to do as we please! Who am I to tell someone how best to manage their own personal space?

    As for all the drama? It can take a hike! I'm choosing not to read about it when it happens, and I'm definitely not commenting on it.

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    1. I try to avoid it as well, but sometimes you just stumble upon it and things need to be said :) I think it's okay to say what you prefer in blogs, though, as long as you don't post it as 'this is the right way'

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  22. This is an awesome list and I absolutely love number 1. It seems like there is pressure to post all the time and it can be hard to take a break or post less often. I think overcoming that fear is realizing how great and loving the book blogging community is. They're so understanding and will still love you even if you're around less often =)

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  23. I am in such agreement with the "blog as you want to" policy for the most part. Aside from the usual things that are no-nos like plagiarizing, lack of credit inspiration, and so on, most things are pretty much a matter of your own policies and tastes and interests. Even if I dislike a certain style or choice made by another blogger, it's hardly my business to be policing them.

    It's a shame that there's still such terrible behavior from both authors and bloggers. All we can do is try to support each other as best we can.

    Wendy @ The Midnight Garden

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    1. Yes, there are some rules when it comes to being respectful, but most of the things are up to you to decide :)

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  24. Sometimes it still boggles my mind when someone steals someone else's content. Because its almost always so obvious when they do it. I mean blogging is a big community but it is still a very small community if you think about it. Usually each genre has its set of people so we all see what the others write for the most part. *shakes head*

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  25. I love love love you for continually telling bloggers that there is no right way to blog! It should come from the heart it's a simple as that and people should blog because it makes them happy. So we all absolutely should be respectful of one another as well and make this a better community. As for those authors who visit bloggers to rant about bad reviews, I'm not even going to start on that one...I mean I can understand how it could be hard to stay away and read some reviews of your book, but if you can't take it just stay away or keep it to yourself! And yeah this whole plagiarism craze needs to stop. It's beyond not cool and disrespectful and people need to realize it. Awesome post Mel ^^ xx

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    1. I think it's very important to do whatever YOU want, so I like to write down that message whenever I can :D

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